Ok, so here’s one on love.
So there’s this analogy I subscribe to, passed along to me by a friend of mine. I’ve been calling it the lemon cake philosophy, and it’s the best advice anyone’s ever given me. I’m validating it on my blog because I think everyone should give it some consideration. Especially those of you who have bought into “out of my league” or “not her type.” I want to put some wind back into your sails.
It’s simple, really.
Imagine that the first time you try cake, you’re given a slice of chocolate cake. You grow up eating chocolate cake, and you come to love it.
Catch is, no one ever tells you that chocolate cake is not the only kind of cake there is.
One day, you go to dinner and the server tells you that cake will be served for dessert. After you eat it, you decide that this is the shittiest cake you have ever had.
That’s because it was lemon cake, and you didn’t even realize you enjoyed it. You were too focused on how unlike chocolate it tasted.
The message is this. When it comes to what people like, rather who people like, there isn’t always agreement between what they think they like and what they simply don’t have the experience to recognize they like.
So keep your head up and fight to show him what you’re about. Look to show her what she’s missing out on. But don’t feel bad that you aren’t a shitty chocolate cake.
